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Let me decide for myself

Very often I have  to decide what image is the one I want to keep.  I don’t need two or three, which would make the things much easier. Only one. “He who has a choice, has a torment”.

It helps when I know exactly what the image will be used for.  Below, there are two photographs of the same swan – the cropped one is a header image. That is easy.

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Sometimes I have two things that I have to choose between, and neither of them is good. It is like you have to choose what house you have to move in, and these are your only options:

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Choosing between two imperfect things is a difficult choice most of voters have to deal with…

In modern society, The Media tells people how to live and what to think. Many of those who imagine themselves free, independent and having their own opinion, are in fact tied up with the choices someone else has made for them. If it is not enough, they are also helpfully provided with the motivations for these choices. You just have no choice but accept ‘your’ choice, so to speak, remaining disillusioned and unaware. It is not the way choice operates. At the very least, people have to use their own knowledge, experience and intuition, and exercise judging, selecting and rejecting before they call the choice ‘theirs’. No cheating.

Recently I came across a quote. American comedian Sandra Bernhard said the following: ‘I am very much a humanist. I am very much pro-choice. I am very much politically correct”.

I hope she was joking.

Power of choice is one of the most important principles in our life. Freedom of choice is one of the most important values in society. Pro-choice (the same as pro-life, if you wondered) labels are just what they are – the labels, and one of their purposes is to divide society. Why would you want anything that divides your nation?

I am not finished with Sandra Bernhard yet.

I beg you to never be ‘politically correct’! Please, if you are not naturally kind, caring, cultured; if you are tactless, if you often have a cause to regret your words and justify yourself – don’t be discouraged, and don’t replace all of this with the ‘politically-correct’ label on your sleeve. Make your own choice to become a genuinely better person, not a properly labeled hypocrite.

And again, if you wondered, I am too far from being that ideal person, but I rather die trying to become one, than humiliate another fellow human by being ‘politically correct’ towards him or her.

“Truth without love is brutality, and love without truth is hypocrisy.” 
Warren W Wiersbe

Please, don’t demand ‘political correctness’. You are manipulated without knowing that. Stick to the good people, earn respect, have your goals to focus on. People might try to offend you now and then, but that happens with all of us, no exceptions, because it is what some people choose to do.

Here is a quote to those who are difficult to deal with.

“He who takes offense when no offense is intended is a fool, and he who takes offense when offense is intended is a greater fool.”
Brigham Young

Each of us has been that fool at least once 😉

And the third quote is

“Waste no more time arguing about what a good man should be. Be one.”
Marcus Aurelius

These three quotes mean that my blogging friend Sarah at  Sarah Potter Writes has nominated me for 3 Days 3 Quotes Challenge 🙂 Thank you so much, Sarah! Hope you don’t mind that I wrote only one blog post instead of three.

The rules:

  1. Thank the person who nominated you.
  2. Post one fresh quotation on three consecutive days.
  3. On each of the three days, nominate three folk who have not yet taken part to continue the challenge.

Sarah Potter is a fantasy and science fiction author – and much much more. Please, visit and follow Sarah’s blog.

There are my nominees. Don’t feel obliged 🙂

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https://kyrosmagica.wordpress.com/

https://socialbridge.wordpress.com/

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https://milliethom.wordpress.com/

https://shehannemoore.wordpress.com/

http://jeanleesworld.com/

Hope you greet these bloggers like the pirates from De Stormvogels, Holland, greeted me 🙂

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Have a wonderful weekend!

Like a child

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Children are my favorite people. I love to see them happy and protected,  but often I see them neglected and abused.  They are “inconvenient”, “economically worthless”, “unwanted”.  Their parents regret having them, and are itching for them to move out so that they can finally get some “life”.  For this post I have collected a few quotes and videos related to children and “being like children”.

The words of Kahlil Gibran are very often quoted and discussed.

A nursing mother asked the Prophet: Speak to us on children.

This is his answer.

Your children are not your children.

They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.

They come through you but not from you,

And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you.

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You may give them your love but not your thoughts.

For they have their own thoughts.

You may house their bodies but not their souls,

For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,

which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.

You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.

For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.

You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.

The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,

and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far.

Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness;

For even as He loves the arrow that flies,

so He loves also the bow that is stable.

We cannot make our children in our own image and likeness.  We have to give them freedom to grow.  But there is something else in this poem, that I find very important. Our children are given to us, which means, we will have to account for them.

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Teenagers are also children, and they are entitled to our love. They do not want to listen to our words very often, but they certainly see our example. Even if people tragically make wrong decisions, any effort their parents have made is not in vain, and pays off.

“It’s not our job to toughen our children up to face a cruel and heartless world. It’s our job to raise children who will make the world a little less cruel and heartless.”
L.R. Knost, Two Thousand Kisses a Day: Gentle Parenting Through the Ages and Stages

Every war takes countless lives of innocent children.

Janusz Korczak, a doctor and author, was a principal of a Jewish orphanage in Warsaw from 1910-th.

“Children are not the people of tomorrow, but are people of today. They have a right to be taken seriously, and to be treated with tenderness and respect. They should be allowed to grow into whoever they were meant to be. ‘The unknown person’ inside of them is our hope for the future.”  Janusz Korczak

When the institution was sent  to the Treblinka extermination camp, he refused to leave his orphans  and went to the gas chamber with them. He told the children to wear their best clothes, and take with them a favorite book or toy, as if they went for a trip.

Come away, O human child!
To the waters and the wild
With a faery, hand in hand,
For the world’s more full of weeping than you can understand.”
W.B. Yeats, The Collected Poems

The life is tough, but  it is much easier to bear the burden of life if you have good memories of your childhood, parents and grandparents.   Make these memories for your children to strengthen them at the times when they need to be strong .

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“Every child comes with the message that God is not yet discouraged of man.”— Rabindranath Tagore

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“Children see magic because they look for it.”
  ― Christopher Moore, writer

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The child must know that he is a miracle, that since the beginning of the world there hasn’t been, and until the end of the world there will not be, another child like him. – Pablo Casals, musician

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“Children are the living messages we send to a time we will not see.” – John F. Kennedy

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“When I approach a child, he inspires in me two sentiments — tenderness for what he is and respect for what he may become.” Louis Pasteur

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We all know that there is a little child in us. All our experiences and ages are preserved in us.

Act as a child when you feel it is a right time to do so. It might make the world a better place.

“May what I do flow from me like a river, no forcing and no holding back, the way it is with children.”
Rainer Maria Rilke

You don’t necessarily have to have your own children, it doesn’t make much difference (go back to the first quote). About 25% of world population are children. You may be their relative or neighbor; you may be physician, senator, president, baby food manufacturer, movie maker,  writer,  teacher, farmer… Just don’t do anything that can harm them.

IneseMjPhotographyHave a wonderful day!

Good old-fashioned sunset

“Nobody of any real culture, for instance, ever talks nowadays about the beauty of sunset. Sunsets are quite old fashioned. To admire them is a distinct sign of provincialism of temperament. Upon the other hand they go on.”

Oscar Wilde

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I am a fan of Oscar Wilde since age of 12, so I cannot tell for sure is it his hidden influence or my personal whim that I  have never had a picture of a classic sunset on my wall.  Nevertheless, the images I am going to share today prove that nothing human is alien to me, which is another quote 🙂 . Sunsets and quotes, hope you enjoy them.

“When the sun sets, who doth not look for night?”
Shakespeare

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“Clouds come floating into my life no longer to carry rain or usher storm, but to add color to my sunset sky.”
Robindranath Tagore

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“Every sunset brings the promise of a new dawn.”
Ralph Waldo Emerson

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“To leave out beautiful sunsets is the secret of good taste.”  🙂
Dejan Stojanovic 

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“What is life? It is the flash of a firefly in the night. It is the breath of a buffalo in the wintertime. It is the little shadow which runs across the grass and loses itself in the sunset.”
 Chief Crowfoot

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“When I admire the wonder of a sunset, or a  beauty of the moon, my soul expands in worship of the Creator. “
Mahatma Gandhi

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“You know – one loves the sunset when one is very very sad…”
Antoine de Saint-Exupery, The Little Prince
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 “If your eyes are blinded with your worries, you cannot see the beauty of the sunset.”
 Jiddu Krishnamurti 

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“Don ‘t forget : beautiful sunsets need cloudy skies.”
Paulo Coelho

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All the photographs are taken in different countries over the years.

Tip of the day:  Just sit still and watch. You will know when to take out your camera.

www.inesemjphotography.comHave a good week!