I enjoyed a beautiful drive this week. I had the road mostly to myself, except the election candidates who emerged from the bushes here and there, individually or in threes. The hazy sun gave that beautiful, drawing-like look to the fields and castle ruins, my favorite Lyric FM played Claude Debussy, and I had everything planned for the day, and even for the day ahead.

When I was getting ready for my appointment, I got a voice mail from a stranger. She informed me that a friend of mine had a stroke.

I inherited this friendship after my dear friend Ruby passed away from cancer. We exchanged text messages, and sometimes met for a meal. I visited them as often as I could, which wasn’t too often. Them, that is Bob and Trevor.

Trevor loves photography, and some of his images are simply amazing. He and his father used to travel a lot. Those days are gone.

I have been thinking of life lately, and it is not as if I didn’t already know it before, but I was hit with that thought again –  life is too short.

What is the key to life?

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Be curious like a child

Don’t be afraid to be alone

Embrace ageing

Don’t miss the beauty in every single moment.

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The pink morning light did last just a few moments. A daredevil friend and I went to this photo shoot just before the storm hit the coast.  Something to remember. Something to be happy about, even though life is so short it is frightening.

PS I wrote about Bob in this blog two years ago. Please, send him healing thoughts. Trevor needs him.

inesemjphotographyHave a wonderful Sunday!


  1. Sometimes I feel as if I’ve been around forever, but then I think of all the things I still need to do and there’s not enough time. Just live each day 🙂 Love your pink light.

  2. I totally agree with your answer to the question regarding the key to life. Your phrase ‘Be curious like a child’ is lovely. To a child, everything about life is fascinating, and learning new things and having new experiences fills him/her joy. So it follows that if we continue to do that throughout life, instead of developing complacency and disinterest in what is going on around us, we’d be happier people all round.
    As for ageing, I can’t say it bothers me over much. I admit I’m lucky enough to enjoy good health, so have nothing to complain about at the moment. But who knows what the future might bring? Which makes your final point even more important: ‘Don’t miss the beauty of every single moment’.
    A thoughtful and thought-provoking post, Inese, and I really hope your dear friend, Bob, recovers from the stroke.

    1. Thank you Millie! These little things can improve quality of life if practiced daily. Walks, trips, free internet classes – everything for a curious mind. Changes of light and seasons, historical landmarks and natural objects – just everything. And people! Just walk outside and smile to a stranger, or help out if there is an opportunity to help. Every thing that makes you feel good enriches your life. No room left for regrets.

      1. I couldn’t agree more with everything you list here, Inese. I haven’t tried the free internet classes yet, but I’m sadly in need of them!

  3. An incredible post Inese ~ life is frighteningly short, but just as powerfully beautiful as well. You cover some of these incredible key areas of life, with my favorite being keeping the mind of a child whenever possible. Life has so much to explore, to see and to love – and it seems that children have the ability to see this all in abundance. Wishing you well.

    1. Thank you so much for your kind comment, Randall. So much has been said about all of this, but personal experience always brings color to the common knowledge…
      I am glad that keeping the mind of a child is your favorite. It might sound like I have never grown up, but I see it in a different light. Children learn incredible amounts of information and skills in a very short time, and if I don’t let my natural curiosity fade away, the world will never seem bleak and my life pointless.
      Wishing you all the very best!

  4. Hope your friend gets better soon > Love the pink sunset and yes > we should all value those fleeting moments of wonder. And why does time go faster these days? Blaaaagh!

  5. A very moving post Inese, so sad when illness strikes particularly when your friend Bob needs to be fit to care for Trevor. Life is indeed to short that is why we must embrace each and every moment, capturing its beauty, as you do so beautifully.

  6. I was sorry to hear about your friend’s stroke. My thoughts are with Bob and Trevor.

    I agree with you about life being too short. I was particularly struck by your point about enjoying the beauty of every moment. Life is a gift, and I shouldn’t let myself get too caught up in everyday trivialities to forget it.

    1. Thank you so much! We all know about the beauty of the world, and about enjoying every moment – all that trivial stuff. I know it all in theory, as everyone else, but do I practice enjoying every moment? Not at all, until I get a reminder – like that beautiful sunrise when I am lucky, or an illness, when I am not.

    1. Thank you so much, Diane, and I truly appreciate this thoughtful comment and your precious vacation time! I am so happy for you, and look forward to reading the holiday story 🙂 xx

  7. So sorry to hear about your friend. The photos on this page and the one you referee are so beautiful. Sending loving thoughts for Bob and Trevor!

  8. Inese, a very tender post and my best wishes to Bob and Trevor.
    Life has a way of dishing up rough moments but it also has a way of presenting us with hearts of gold when we least expect them.

    1. Thank you so much for your kind words! I am worrying about Trevor. It took him years to recover after his mother’s death, and he also lost her sister and brother, to the same cancer. He is a very strong man, but he needs his routine, his home and his pet. It is a disaster what is going on right now.

      1. Oh Inese, I can more than understand as I spent a huge part of my life doing research about the life histories of people with disabilities and I know how very difficult it can all be. I just hope that there are ways and means to keep his routine as close to normal as possible. xx

  9. What a sensitive and thoughtful post Inese – life really is too short and I thank you for you lovely reminder!
    My best wishes to both Bob and Trevor!! May he recover soon from his stroke and may his son find enough strength to get through – I am sure your friendship helps them both very much! Lots of love, Sarah

    1. Thank you so much, Sarah! The doctors say it will take months for him to regain his speech and mobility, but living in the country they need someone drive them to places. Hopefully everything will work out, eventually. Hugs!!!

  10. I am thinking about Bob and Trevor…I can imagine how you feel since a friend of mine passed away 14 months ago. Yes, life is too short, so let’s love come in and fears go out.
    There is always something special when reading your posts. Thanks for them 🙂
    Have a great Sunday you too.

    1. Thank you so much Montserrat! It looks like Bob is recovering, but it will take a good few months, and of course he won’t be the same, and he wont be able to drive and do many other things that have to be done to care for his son. If I lived closer, I would keep an eye on them two, but it doesn’t seem possible in the circumstances.

      1. yes, sometimes it would be nice to be closer, not feeling so far to those friends who need you. I am sure he knows you care, and that is a great support. It could be more complete, but what can you do? Time will tell 🙂
        I wish them all the best ❤

    1. Thank you so much! It really upsets me that I was feeling so sorted, so content and good, with all my stuff planned and prepared, and then just a single voicemail sent everything crashing down. Tomorrow I will drive over and see if there is anything I can help with. Don’t think there is, though. They have some 15 cats and a dog in the backyard, and one at home. We all know that the life is short. Why do we live as if it lasts forever.

      1. That is why we live as if it will last forever, because it is short. Oh and life is life isn’t it. You make your wee plans and you get things sorted and you think, all good. But there is never such a thing as sorted. Lol. It is all about rising to the challenge. Take care my sweet friend xxxxx

        1. Thank you ! Hope you have a lovely week with many happy and amazing moments. They say that unoccupied time feels longer, but when you look back, it is the busy and happy time that feels longer 🙂 Hugs! xxxxxx

    1. Thank you Bernadette! Hope for speedy recovery. They eat quite healthy, and Bob is also growing his own wheatgrass. I haven’t expected this to happen.

  11. I used to work with Down’s Syndrome people and just loved them. It was in the days of the big institutions, when they mostly didn’t get the chance to live with family. It’s so much better for them if they can, but there’s always that chance they will end up losing parents and, in doing so, end up “lost” themselves.

    Healing thoughts coming Bob’s way, and strengthening thoughts coming Trevor’s way. x

    1. Thank you so much, Sarah! I so agree with you. Trevor is 45, and he never lived in the institution, thanks to his devoted mother. He has a great life. He works, he is doing photography and art. He is serving in their church. When he was young, he participated in Special Olimpics and has won many medals over the years. What he does need, it is his routine. Now it is gone, and I am worrying about him. Thank you for your thoughts!

    1. Thank you so much for your thought! Indeed, they need love. I am afraid there is more to this story, and I will find out that tomorrow. Thank you again!

  12. “Don’t miss the beauty in every single moment.” Wonderful … I learned this lesson long before my life was changed this year past. Magnificent post. It is always such a pleasure to see your insightful images and slowly savoir your written words …

    1. Thank you so much, Nicodemas. Doctors say it will, but it takes many months, and there are things he will never do again, like driving. For them it is crucial. Someone has to take Trevor to his Social Center and work, 20 km. Hope for some solution.

      1. I very much enjoyed the older post that you linked to (comments were closed, or I would have left this one there). What an amazing place! A building of such age… the energies of it came through in your photos. Lovely. More hugs. 🙂

        1. Thank you so much, Teagan! I guess that the prayers have built a strong energy shield around this building over the centuries. Unfortunately there is no way to stop the crumbling of the sandstone, unless the entrance is reassembled and taken to museum.
          I closed the comments because of the spam I was getting from the certain sort of websites linked to my 2014 posts. It was a nightmare.
          More hugs!!!

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